There’s something strange about how often people talk about romantic relationships—even when they’re clearly miserable.

They complain.
They over-explain.
They spiral into a loop of “he said, she said” or “I don’t know what this means” or “they’re just emotionally unavailable.”

And I’m over here thinking: shut up already.

Because it’s not that relationships aren’t important—it’s that the way some people treat them is like an emotional addiction.
They’re hooked on the idea of it. The attention. The chaos. The drama. The audience.

And somewhere along the line, I realized—it’s just dessert.

The Indulgence That Won’t Let Go

I once heard a doctor at a medical convention say:

“People will skip breakfast. People will skip lunch. But they won’t skip dinner—and they definitely won’t skip dessert.”

And that’s when it hit me.
Romantic relationships are dessert.

They’re not always nourishing. They’re not essential. But they’re emotional. They’re addictive. And even when they make people sick, they keep going back for another bite.

We skip all kinds of things that would actually help us grow—discipline, quiet, reflection, boundaries, time alone.
But people rarely skip romance. Or the fantasy of it.

Even when it’s a dry, flavorless, low-effort mess of a relationship…
They still show up the next day to tell you how “crazy” it all is.

If It’s So Bad, Why Are You Still Eating It?

I’m not talking about people who’ve had one hard breakup. I’m talking about people who treat drama like identity.
They stir up chaos, feed it to everyone around them, and call it connection.

And it’s not.
It’s performance. It’s addiction. It’s dessert.

The truth is—they don’t want out. They want attention.
Romance becomes their go-to trauma script, their way of taking up space, their way of feeling alive.

But if it’s so unsatisfying, why are we all still passing the plate?

Call It What It Is

Look, when romance is good, it’s beautiful.
But what most people are experiencing isn’t connection—it’s confusion.
And the worst part? They know it.

They know the cake is dry.
They know it won’t fill them.
They know they’ll feel sick after.
And still—they keep eating. And talking. And over-talking.

Sometimes the most radical thing you can do is skip the dessert entirely.